Having a conversation about a difficult topic can bring up a lot of anxiety in both partners. If there is already a history of difficult conversations ending in argument, partners get into a cycle of avoiding sensitive topics, creating a ticking time bomb in their relationship.
Arguments are a natural part of all relationships. But if they occur too often or include unhealthy aspects, relationships suffer. Here is a step by step guide on how to address sensitive topics and avoid them turning into heated fights. More →
Tagged: arguments, communication, complaint, contempt, defensiveness, empathy, flooding, healthy relationships, partners, relationships, repeated patterns
This is part 3 of a 3 part series. For Part 1, please click here and Part 2 click here.
Shikha and Nirav sat nervously in the therapist’s waiting room. The anxiety in the room was palpable. Nirav’s leg was shaking nonstop as he looked around at the decorations on the wall. Shikha was flipping through a magazine without registering anything that she was reading.
Both of them were consumed by their thoughts. More →
Tagged: arguments, counseling/therapy, repeated patterns, stonewalling, story
This is part 2 of a 3 part series. For Part 1, please click here and for Part 3, click here.
It was a typical evening at Shikha and Nirav’s house. Shikha, who comes home from work earlier, had made dinner and set the table.
“Hi,” said Nirav quietly as he walked past Shikha to change his clothes. She replied back just as quietly and without much emotion. More →
Tagged: arguments, contempt, counseling/therapy, defensiveness, repeated patterns, stonewalling, story, unhealthy relationships
“They’re so right for each other!” “They are the perfect couple.” “They must not have any problems.” These are the types of things friends and family would constantly think about Sonia and Anil. They were the couple that all couples wanted to be like. They always looked happy with each other and, when asked by either of their friends, replied that in the 3 years they had been together, they had never had an argument. More →
Tagged: anxiety, arguments, communication, hostility, relationships, repeated patterns
For young South Asian adults, after obtaining a college degree, the next item to check off on your list of things to do is to get married. The pressure for marriage begins earlier than our non South Asian counterparts and may be difficult to explain to someone who is not familiar with the culture. The stress increases when finding a partner is no longer done just for your parents but because you are interested in finding a life-long mate as well.
Tagged: anxiety, counseling/therapy, dating, men's issues, relationships, repeated patterns, self-esteem, self-reflection, tips, women's issues
A unique issue for first-generation American-born South Asians is that many prefer the Western method to finding your life partner: dating. Since many of their parents are immigrants and probably had arranged marriages, they aren’t able to turn to their parents for help on learning how to navigate the dating scene.
As they embark on the journey of finding a significant other, a common concern South Asians who are dating have is why they end up dating the same type of person repeatedly. Interestingly, the answer to this relies mainly on self-reflection, as who you choose to date is often based on patterns that you have learned in childhood and adolescence. For example: More →
Tagged: arguments, communication, dating, expectations, men's issues, relationships, repeated patterns, self-reflection, women's issues