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South Asian Couples: Support Each Other During Times of Stress

April 25, 2012 · 2 Comments

imageSrishti sunk into the sofa and burst into tears. “What happened,” Sapan, her husband, asked. “Who was on the phone?”

“It was my mother. My father has cancer,” Srishti said between sobs. Sapan sat beside her and hugged her while she cried.

“I can’t believe this is happening. He’s so young and we have no cancer history in our family. More →

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Breaking the Cycle of Fighting

November 18, 2011 · 1 Comment

couple fightingMost couples who fight in an unhealthy manner have a common pattern in their arguments. One person says something critical which is responded to with contempt and resentment. This incites defensiveness in the original partner who continues to attack causing the second partner to mentally check out of the conversation. This pattern, known as the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, can become a rigid and regular method of communicating which decreases intimacy and damages a relationship.

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5 Reasons Why You Don’t Have Your Ideal Relationship

November 4, 2011 · Leave a Comment

Do you find yourself fighting with your partner often or wondering why you don’t feel satisfied in your relationship? Have  you tried to think of everything possible to help your partner change so that you can have the relationship that you want but you still don’t have it? The answer may not be with your partner but with you. More →

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South Asian Couples: Validate Your Partner

September 19, 2011 · Leave a Comment

indian couple talkingOne of the easiest negative relationship patterns to get into is believing that your position is right and is the only position that can be right. In fact, many clinicians are quick to point out, that in a conversation there is your truth, your partner’s truth and the real truth that no one can see because of our role in the conversation. More →

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South Asian Relationships: How to Compromise Without Fighting

September 16, 2011 · 2 Comments

compromiseWhether it’s about who washes the dishes, who picks up the children from soccer practice or how often to have sex, relationships require constant compromise to ensure the health and happiness of both partners. This is expected as two entirely different individuals have come together to build a joint life and these individuals have unique histories, experiences and personalities that don’t always match. More →

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South Asian Couples: Talking About Talking

September 14, 2011 · 3 Comments

He could tell that she was upset. She always walked a little harder, closed doors a little louder and would rarely look him in the eye. He could tell his anxiety was increasing as he wracked his brain trying to figure out what he had done wrong. He had to ask her what was wrong.

“Nothing,” Sejal said quickly as she walked past him. More →

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South Asian Relationships: Story of an Inter-Faith Couple Part 2

July 8, 2011 · Leave a Comment

This is Part 2 of a 2 part series. Read Part 1 here.

hindu christianFor one week Sonal and Terrence didn’t talk to each other. They were so hurt by each other’s callousness to their own family traditions. Sonal started feeling increased anxiety during this week. “If he’s so adamant about Christmas always being celebrated in church, how would he feel about celebrating Diwali,” she thought. “Would he just sit in the corner and watch her family celebrate?” And then she almost panicked as the next thought entered her mind: More →

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South Asian Couples: A Clash of Religions

July 6, 2011 · 1 Comment

This is Part 1 of a two-part series. Read Part 2 here.

Sonal and Terrence met at a mutual friend’s birthday party the summer after they graduated from college. He said a cheesy pick up line to get her attention and make her laugh, which worked. She was smitten from the beginning.

As with all new couples, that summer Sonal and Terrence spent as much time together as they possibly could. More →

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South Asian Men Can be Victims of Abuse

June 29, 2011 · 2 Comments

Richa  had reached her limit. Her youngest daughter, who was 2 years old, was sick with the flu, her son who was 6 had chicken pox and her 8 year old daughter needed supplies for an art project, which she forgot to pick up. With two young children crying and an older child feeling stressed about her homework assignment, Richa wanted to run away. More →

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South Asian Relationships: 6 Tips to Help Her Stop Nagging

June 13, 2011 · 2 Comments

“Don’t forget to call the doctor today,” Vaishali called over her shoulder as she went to wash her hands after breakfast. Ninad was loading his cereal bowl in the dishwasher when he heard the reminder. She had already told him this what seemed like 90 times the night before.

Vaishali came back from the bathroom as Ninad was finishing up. “When do you think you’ll call the doctor?” Vaishali asked. More →

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