South Asian Relationships: 6 Tips to Help Her Stop Nagging

“Don’t forget to call the doctor today,” Vaishali called over her shoulder as she went to wash her hands after breakfast. Ninad was loading his cereal bowl in the dishwasher when he heard the reminder. She had already told him this what seemed like 90 times the night before. Vaishali …

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South Asian Couples: What is Your Conflict Resolution Style?

Numerous research studies have identified three basic conflict management styles that are commonly seen in couples: avoidant, volatile and validating. Most important for the satisfaction and health of the relationship is having a matching conflict management style with your partner. That way, both of you have the same expectations of …

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South Asian Couples: the Volatile and the Avoider

Abhay was the calmest person you could ever meet. He rarely became angry or overly happy and seemed to be at peace with everything in his life. Ashwini was the opposite. She was a very passionate person who felt a wide ranges of emotion. When something exciting happened, Abhay would …

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South Asian Relationships: Six Steps To Prevent Arguments

Having a conversation about a difficult topic can bring up a lot of anxiety in both partners. If there is already a history of difficult conversations ending in argument, partners get into a cycle of avoiding sensitive topics, creating a ticking time bomb in their relationship. Arguments are a natural …

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The Story of a South Asian Couple: why they fight the way they do

After 2 years of marital stress, Sagar and Purvi decided it was time they needed to sit down and figure out what exactly the source of their relationship issues was. Quickly, they identified the negative communication pattern that they found themselves in. When one of them felt criticized, they reacted …

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Biology of Marriage: Oxytocin

Couples who have a healthy relationship experience numerous physical and emotional benefits. First, couples in healthy relationships do not engage in defensiveness, which has been shown to increase blood pressure in people with and without other risk factors for cardiovascular disease. The avoidance of this behavior acts as a preventative …

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Tips to Talk to a Passive-Aggressive Partner

Once you have acknowledged that your spouse is being passive-aggressive and have become better at identifying the instances when they are exhibiting such hurtful behaviors, you have two choices on what to do: First, you can choose to stay quiet. By not confronting your spouse, you will avoid the cyclical …

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How Else Can I Tell if My Partner is Passive-Aggressive?

Passive-aggressive behavior, like all other behavior that can negatively affect a relationship, lies on a continuum. We have all engaged in behavior that has hurt our relationship in one way or the other. Perhaps we’ve criticized when we really should have watched our words more carefully, or we’ve become defensive …

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South Asian Relationships: Minimizing the Problem

One can say that one of the strengths of South Asian culture is the value placed on taking care of other’s needs and placing collective happiness over individual happiness. This can lead to a strong feeling of togetherness, accountability to others in your life and high group cohesion. However, this …

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