Resentment, colloquially known as bitterness, is a toxic emotion that is primarily induced by feeling as if you are being treated unfairly. Resentment can be felt in any type of relationship including intimate partnerships, friendships and professional relationships. It is an emotion that is built up over a few weeks, months or years after feeling as if you have been slighted or wronged repeatedly. More →
Three Tips to Overcome Resentment
February 22, 2012 · Leave a Comment
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South Asian Parents: 3 Unexpected Tips To Be Better Parents
February 17, 2012 · Leave a Comment
Many South Asian parents have no problem being involved in their child’s life. From the first day the baby is born and for the rest of its life, a majority of South Asian parents find themselves focused on their child’s needs, ready to sacrifice anything for the child’s well-being. When asked what they wish for their children, most South Asian parents will say they wish for happiness, health and wellbeing.
Here are some tips that many South Asians don’t realize will help them be even better parents to their children: More →
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Want to Lose Weight? Reduce the Stress
February 15, 2012 · Leave a Comment
When you are under stress, your focus is primarily on getting through the stressful event. What tends to fall to the wayside are healthy living strategies like exercising and eating well and you may notice an increase in weight during the most stressful times of your life. For people experiencing chronic stress, this weight gain can become long term and put them at risk for becoming obese. Here are the numerous ways that stress causes you to gain weight:
Increased fat storage. When stressed, our bodies produce excess cortisol, a stress hormone, that alters our body’s ability to store fat. Specifically, our body begins to store fat in our abdominal area which not only makes our clothes fit tighter but is linked with significant health risks than fat stored elsewhere in our bodies.
Cravings. Ice cream, pizza and french fries might sound like the perfect meal in the height of a stressful situation. This is because when our bodies are stressed, our body goes into survival mode and uses up a lot of energy to keep up with the stress. For this reason, we tend to crave fatty, salty and sugary foods. However, when presented with chronic stress, these unhealthy foods begin to add up and start showing up on your waistline.
Emotional Eating. Some people overeat when stressed because it fills a void or an emotional need (also known as emotional eating) while for others poor quality food is easier to attain and requires less effort. Stress hormones like cortisol not only make you crave unhealthy food but make you want to eat more often than you normally do.
Metabolism. Being stressed for a day or two once in a while is something our bodies are equipped for handling. However, when too much cortisol in the blood for an extended period of time due to chronic stress, our metabolism slows down. Even if your food intake has not changed, you may still see weight gain because of this, which is tied back to stress as the main cause.
Blood sugar. Chronic stress has been linked numerous times to the development of diabetes. Stress alters our body chemistry so that blood sugar levels change causing mood swings, fatigue and in its worst form, metabolic syndrome which includes cardiac events and diabetes.
Less Exercise. With the extra demands placed on our mind and body during a time of stress, it may seems that there is no time to work out. Choosing sitting on the couch over going for a walk after dinner can become a habit and in conjunction with poorer eating habits and the body changes that stress causes, gaining weight is inevitable.
Lower Mood. Chronic and mismanaged stress is the foundation for experiencing low mood, anxiety and and depression. This can exacerbate the problems already caused by stress, such as having a more difficult time maintaining a healthy eating or exercise habit. In addition, it further adds to the risk of developing chronic illnesses such as cardiovascular disease and diabetes.
With the terrifyingly high number of young South Asians having heart attacks these days, addressing emotional risk factors for weight gain seems to be as urgent for the community as addressing the physical risk factors. If you are on the path to lose weight and seem to be getting stuck, take a look at your emotional state and do what you can to lessen your stress. Even if you are eating well, chronic stress will cause your body to hold on to extra fat that no amount of exercise will be able to take off.
How does stress affect your mind and body? Please leave your comments below.
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What is Grief?
February 13, 2012 · Leave a Comment
The shock that comes with experiencing a significant loss can make you feel as if the ground has been pulled out from under you. Grief is the natural emotional response to any loss. Losses can vary from the death of a loved one or pet, to the loss of health, a job, a dream or safety after a trauma. Loss can also include experiencing a miscarriage or even losing a friendship.
Grieving this loss comes with a multitude of different emotions including sadness, anger, guilt and frustration. More →
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South Asian Emotion: The Truth About Laughter
February 10, 2012 · Leave a Comment
Whether it’s a boisterous laugh that comes from the belly or a quiet laugh interspersed with snorting, when we laugh we instantly feel good and we want to do it again. What we don’t think about is what is happening to our minds and bodies as we giggle, chuckle or roar out in laughter when something funny happens.
What is Laughter?
The definition of laughter is that it is a physiological response to humor. When we laugh, we are using at least 15 facial muscles to contort our face and make a sound. More →
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Attributional Styles: Are You At Risk for Depression?
February 8, 2012 · Leave a Comment
Two college students both received exceptional grades on a difficult project. One of them responded by saying, “I worked so hard on that project! I know if I had to do it again and I studied just as hard, I would do just as well the next time.” The other said, “My professor must have been in a good mood when he saw my project. If I did it again, who knows how high my grade would be.”
Each of the their responses hold clues into how they generally perceive their world and their risk for developing depression and other mental health issues. More →
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Common Causes for Anger Management Issues
February 6, 2012 · Leave a Comment
Anger is an emotion that children learn to feel within a few months of being born. The emotion itself is a healthy and natural expression of certain experiences. Anger becomes a problem when it becomes out of control and when it hurts people emotionally or even physically.
People mistakenly believe that anger can be managed by trying harder to control yourself. More →
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Five Things To Never Say To Someone With ADHD
February 3, 2012 · Leave a Comment
If you know someone with true Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), you might have experienced frustration with them at least once. The symptoms of ADHD make it difficult for the person to function easily in certain areas of life, resulting in teachers, parents, friends, siblings, co-workers or even partners to become exasperated.
Irritation builds over time and close friends, family and colleagues may find themselves taking out their emotions on their loved one. More →
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Top Five Dating Mistakes
February 1, 2012 · Leave a Comment
For many South Asians, entering the dating scene is like stepping onto an entirely different planet. Not built into the culture, young South Asians can rarely rely on their parents’ experiences to provide some familiarity or guidance on how to navigate this new stage of life.
In addition, dating is often in direct conflict with what many South Asian parents feel is appropriate for their child at a certain age, leaving the teenager or young adult feeling alienated when they are ready to start dating. More →
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South Asian Relationships: The Invisible Divorce
January 11, 2012 · 6 Comments
While most South Asian countries can pride themselves on some of the lowest divorce rates in the world, remaining legally married is not necessarily a testament to the health and happiness of the relationship. In cultures, such as the South Asian culture, where legal divorce is looked down upon, an invisible divorce often takes its place.
The hallmark of an invisible divorce is that though the couple is legally married the couple no longer share emotional or physical intimacy as they once did. More →
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